DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> The Evolution Revolution 
I'm pleased to be receiving and reading some very insightful and progressive thoughts from the younger members of the scene. I have great faith that there are many intelligent, bright, enlightened young people who are members of the bdsm community and they have a lot to contribute (naturally!).
Recently I have been reading numerous threads/blogs written by younger people as well as talking to more people under 35 (seems that the 'new generation' is anyone under 35 and I do have a slight issue with this, hehe) who are involved in various bdsm communities. I am learning a lot from them.
By the way, you NEVER have to stop evolving, changing, learning just because you get older. Yes, people can get 'stuck' in behaviors and thought patterns but if there is any pattern I think it is good to get 'stuck' in, it is a pattern of always evolving and becoming a better and better 'thinker' and that you apply what you learn (wisdom).
I have always been a 'rebel' and have resisted being 'programmed' in any manner (even in some beneficial ways I now realize). I love challenging ideas that limit my perspective to be less than broad. I have been told that I have one of the most broad perspectives that a person can have, and I am very tolerant and accepting of people, even when they are absolutely contrary to how I choose to live. This is a good thing, and a bad thing in my opinion. As you know, other people are not so tolerant and open and even amongst the alternative people there is intolerance, prejudice and condemnation. Humans are human no matter what culture. As members of an alternative lifestyle we can represent our lifestyles in a positive manner but will face criticisms from those outside who do not understand.
I believe we all must be given permission to be where we need to be. Of course I would love to be in a world where love was the 'standard' and people did not have to deal with shame, guilt, judgments, intolerance, hate, FEAR (so much seems to be rooted in fear).
We are powerless over what other people think and only have power over how we react or respond. It took me some time to get to this understanding because I am passionate about many things.
As I am reading this blog, many thoughts came to mind, but I would like to add the following.
We may want to add something into this equation: our cellular memories/instincts. For centuries humans have behaved in certain ways based on necessity/survival. This is hardwired into our DNA. Technology and other factors have changed our way of life in many ways and very quickly as far as the last 100 years is concerned.
Personally, I am excited that the paradigms are shifting. Archetypes are being challenged. We are evolving. One of the posters in this blog stated that there "is no difference between men and women". I believe I may understand where they are coming from, however I think what that poster is sensing is that we are entering a phase in evolution, where many people (not all) are coming to the realization that men and women are both feminine and masculine (duh). Our bodies have both the X and the Y. We possess both estrogen and testosterone, we have both the positive and negative electrical charge (just like everything in nature and a battery that runs a car for example), it is universal. The Yin and the Yang.
For many centuries, men, by virtue of their physicality and their brain (btw there are differences between men and women's brains as well as our bodies) have been the hunter/killers, the warriors, the providers, and have functioned in ways that are no longer 'necessary' for survival for the most part.
The same for women. Women have had to get their power from the men socially, they were the keepers of the family, preparers, and had limited leadership in the 'tribe' or social make up. Women have also been very territorial for centuries. This is a very basic explanation that deserves more detailed analysis but for the sake of this blog I am nutshelling it.
Keeping in mind also that there were also different tribal motivations on a grander scale. I am in no way 'done' with my exploration of these topics and there is much to learn about our hardwired instincts and how we are evolving according to modern life.
On another note: Humans seem to need their traditions, their 'rules', their protocols. Yes, we need them. At times they are oppressive, limiting, even destructive, anything but liberating. As a friend reminded me recently, a child feels 'safer' with boundaries even as they protest.
As a community, and as individuals, in many ways we are challenging some age old hard wired instincts, we are moving into an age where we are able to have a more profound balance internally between our masculine and feminine natures. I believe each person has both within them.
I also believe that we will eventually transcend male and female and be something beyond yet BOTH. It may take thousands and thousands of years of evolution. Perhaps we will be totally telepathic when the brain evolves to that degree, perhaps even of a different 'matter' than we are now (a very DENSE matter, hehe).
Circumstances are very different in today's modern world. Women are stepping up to power positions and are being welcomed as leaders. Strong is not just being a bitch anymore.Men are being given permission more and more to be nurturing, vulnerable, soft. I think this is awesome!
Perhaps this is where the poster was coming from. That women and men have the same potentials all the way around as human beings. We do not have to mold ourselves in a particular manner such as 'this is what men are supposed to be like' etc.
There are beautiful differences between women and men and between each and every person. We compliment each other. We are also opposites. We are here in friction with one another- much like diamonds that start out as dark coal, and over hundreds of years the friction between the coal turns the coal into diamonds.
Sorry if my thoughts seem scattered here. It is a topic that evokes many ideas and implications. There are many factors involved.
When I was younger I did not 'get' myself. I did not fit the model that I was given for how a girl should act/feel/look. I felt like an 'it' for many years. I knew I was not a lesbian, but was always called a 'Dyke' because of liking women, but mostly because of my assertive, strong, alpha personality. At that time I had nothing and no one to help me understand. The current generations have so much more to go on in regard to this. Nowadays it is a good thing for a woman to be strong, capable, coming into her power! It is not 'just about being a 'liberated woman', but a liberated human being!!
We have such important power as people, we can rise to the occasion and assist in the ushering in of this new age of awakening, and in a positive manner also. Teach by example. Ask these important questions OUT LOUD. There are rough waters ahead for all of us because no transition comes easily.
Thank you for sharing your views and I appreciate being able to share mine. Keep evolving!! You are doing GREAT!
~Domina Elle
DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> The Young & Perverse - A New Generation Of Kink
I JUST realized in recent months that I am not 18 anymore! I had no idea that people actually HAD to grow up! Ha.
There are wonderful aspects regarding any and every age. We all have so much to share! I tend towards the idea that on one hand there are important things to acknowledge regarding different phases of life, however I love the idea of leaving behind sexism-ageism-any 'ism' that limits my evolution, limits my experience (other than those boundaries that ensure safety and well being), or that keep me from being able to connect and share energy with other people.
I am always looking for where I am limiting MYSELF in my thinking process. There have been numerous times that I thought I was broad minded only to find I actually was indeed limiting myself in some manner.
Subvert that paradigm!! Yay!
Anyway, our way of life, our consciousness is evolving, and just as older generations would do well to acknowledge the younger generations, the same goes the other way too. Perhaps (it is my hope) that eventually there might be more of a unity all the way around. The TRIBE needs all of its components. The whole depends on the atoms composing it. I believe that our cultures modern way of life has taken people farther and farther away from one another and this was well under way by the time of the industrial revolution.
I know there are specific issues, specific scenarios within the broader spectrum, of course, but in general we all stand to gain from one another over all. We all benefit as a CommUNITY.
Some people feel 'safer' with whatever mode they have found and have become comfortable with. I am not here in the world to take that away from them. Each person has their own path. As for me, I am a kinkster! I am also a rebel who likes to push the envelope. I have been one to resist certain protocols and traditions (I have always hated RULES). Yep. I bet you would not guess that (hehe).
However, more and more I have seen the value in certain traditions and protocol and even rules (did I write that?? YIKES). Traditions that have had their roots planted for thousands of years. As they say, why fix it if it is not broken? Also, if it has worked all this time, it probably has some value. I suppose this is one of the gems you get over time with experience.
We can learn from each others experiences and it is wonderful when a 'Master' extends his or her knowledge to those who desire it. But guess what, a master also knows that people can be frivolous and not respect knowledge and the process it took to gain that experience and knowledge. There is a valid REASON that things happen the way they do in regard to initiation, investment, and the value one gains from paying their dues in life. Perhaps this is also why older people can have the perspectives they have towards younger people who often do not appreciate the process. It is a very natural and age-old process.
On the other hand... I absolutely LOVE how so many ideas, ideals; philosophies seem to be evolving especially in regard to human sexuality, sexual identities, gender, sexual psychology and seemingly a more profound willingness to address issues that in the past people avoided like the plague.
Women are now expressing their power (think about it, we no longer live as we did a thousand years ago for instance), men are now being given 'permission' to express their vulnerabilities. About time! But it is par for the course. Technology has changed so much, life on this planet has changed so much and continues to change. Humans ARE an ever evolving species. Some for the better, and in some ways we will get our asses kicked (which in the end is also for the better).
Uncle_Eric has some very interesting input in regard to how primal instincts effect where we are and how things are evolving.
But the point is we need each other and the more we break down the walls (though ever establishing healthy boundaries) the more we ALL stand to gain.
~Domina Elle
DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> FetishBuzz Contest & Vex Latex Clothing: Thanks To All!
Yay! The contest at FetishBuzz.Com is over and with great thanks to the many people who voted for me, I won the latex! I truly appreciate the support I received. I have been designing my new outfits and once I get them I will put up photos for all to see.
Very soon I will be having the contest I promised. Everyone who voted and sent me a message will be entered into the contest. I am looking forward to it!
I will be joining the winner in my dungeon for a session. If the winner does not live locally, I will be sending them a special prize with the option of a session.
I have been wanting an outfit made by VEX Clothing and I am so excited to now be getting one. Thanks again to everyone who took the time to register and vote for me. Keep in mind that Fetishbuzz.com is a great site and they need your support. The blogs and reports are interesting and you should consider adding your own content.
I have now been speaking with Laura at VEX and I am excited to see her drawings of my ideas. One of the designs is inspired by my clown fetish and my love of balloons and the other is an outfit that I will wear when I 'get jiggy with it' on the dance floor. Both designs will feature my 'trademark' heart which I have added to all but one of my self created latex designs. I am the 'Domme with the heart' I suppose is the idea. Thanks again for participating in this fun contest!
~Domina Elle
DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> Notes On Mummification Bondage
I enjoy mummifying people in plastic film wrap, because it is a great way to completely immobilize a person. It is also quick to get them in as well as out and there is more time for play.
I have found, that if you wrap the arms and legs FIRST, then wrap the rest of the body, they cannot move!! This makes the bondage even more intense for the sub.
After I wrap them completely, sometimes even wrapping the head (with an opening to breath of course!); I then lay them down on a bondage table. Once they are lying down I like to cut out openings over the vital areas of interest.
Once wrapped, and once I make openings (BE CAREFUL, use bandage scissors always and use great care!) I then begin to 'torture' those areas.
Another thing, oftentimes I will also tie the person down to the table for even more immobility because they tend to roll or squirm once you start playing and torturing the areas such as nipples. There is an intensity like no other when they are absolutely unable to move or squirm even an inch!
NEVER use flame near plastic wrap!!!! It could very well catch on fire and this would damage your sub!! Can you imagine? How awful that would be! Let's not even go there...
Thanks to an awesome workshop at Thunder in the mountains by Simon Blaise, I am now enthused about plastic film suspension. I am looking for people who would like to be suspended this way. Feel free to contact me if you are interested in this type of bondage/suspension.
This is a very enjoyable, fun way to play! But you should always observe safety when using wrap or during any form of play! Feel free to contact Me with any questions you may have about this method of playing or any other!
~Domina Elle
DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> The Musings Of A Mistress
I have been active in the BDSM lifestyle since my teens. I loved dressing the boys in my clothes as a teenager. I tied up someone for the first time when I was sixteen years old. I had many fantasies involving bondage.
I love the art that fetish involves.
Submission is very important to a submissive, but just because someone thinks they want something does not mean YOU have to give it! I am very careful to discern that I am never used in a person's self destructive behavior patterns. If it is therapeutic and liberating, that is when I am down for the scene!
I LOVE what I do!! I want to create an environment where a person is SAFE to explore and express their nature. It is very important for some people, in that they have chosen me to share their deepest secrets and I am very honored by this. This scenario is a privilege for the Dominant as well as a privilege for the sub/slave. The beauty is in the EXCHANGE of power.
As far as I am concerned, the idea that women are superior to men is an absolute FARCE. Do we really want to be as idiotic as men have been in excluding women as equals? I see this type of thinking not only bad for men, but for the entire human race. Is it not obvious that WE are ALL connected? And our individual behaviors affect the whole? Yes, there is a D/s context, yes there is a place for all types of role-playing and protocol, but life has taught me that when we take ourselves TOO serious we miss out on so many important things! I have found the profound understanding that we are superior people based on our thoughts, actions, and deeds, not on what genitals we happen to have.
Another thing, when people consider me to be their Domme, I take great pride in what I have to offer and in making the scene as exciting and engaging as possible. I give 110% when I am doing a scene, and therefore I can expect that much back. For me, it is not "well they are lucky to be in the same room", nope, what is the Domina without her sub? For many years now I have thought, who decided the rules and why should I follow them? I make my own rules. Sure, I follow safety procedures and common sense. I do value what can be gained from a reasonable expression of protocol. Their are many schools of thought regarding protocol. I do think like anything else in life, people can get carried away with something. I have certainly been guilty of this myself.
I can be the most sadistic woman (in the nicest way, ha). However, I care about the people I engage, I am deeply spiritual, and I love life and learning. I have a passion for understanding human nature and why people feel and think the way they do. I see a great deal of laziness and deceptiveness in the world. I value honesty and sincerity.
I have spent years accumulating the toys and equipment and wardrobe that I have. I pay rent to have a separate Dungeon from my home, and I see people from all over the world that would otherwise (without a pro-Domme) not have an outlet for their Fetishes and desires. I feel fortunate to be able to do what I do!! I love setting the standard for new people, and the challenge of giving a fresh new session to those who have seen Dommes all over the world. Every session should be special and engaging.
So, if you are a new sub or slave, and you are seeking an experience, my suggestion to you is to call and speak with a Mistress, and if She will talk plainly at first, as a PERSON, allowing you to slip into the water knowing you are safe and secure to share your most personal feelings, discern this first before committing. you do not OWE anyone anything other than basic respect! Be careful to know that not all fantasies should be made real!
When I first speak to someone, I want to connect on a human level where we are able to form a connection via trust. I am not arrogant to assume that you SHOULD do whatever I say right away. I think it is important that you know who you are surrendering to.
The world has a way of enslaving people; I am here to facilitate liberation! I see submission as a path that can lead towards liberation; just as I am liberated through Domination. I do not expect everyone or even anyone to share My philosophy.
To all the women who are contemplating being Dommes, in specific pro-Dommes, take this into consideration: Are you willing to give a 100% to the people who may call you? For some, they will be sharing their feelings after years of silence, having been met with judgment or ridicule (even loss), and they deserve more than you just taking their money for an hour of your pretty face. For many a session is a therapeutic experience. There is much more to this than you just spanking or humiliating someone and getting paid. There are layers of psychological motivations and triggers. Can you really take these people where they NEED to go? Can you discern when a person is not healthy? Do you even care?
~Domina Elle
DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> Motivations At The Root Of Fetishes
For some, understanding the origin of why they do or think as they do is of no importance. As for me, I want to live my life AWAKE and with solid balanced intent, therefore I want to clearly see what motivates me.
I feel it is very important to know yourself and why you do the things you do.
I have interacted with thousands of subs and slaves as well as Dominants over the years. Some were very active in the lifestyle, while others were not, yet they engaged in their kinks to some degree in their everyday life.
When I have met and played with various people, I have made it a point to ask numerous questions about what motivates them to want to do what they want to do. I have gotten quite an education that is still a work in progress.
One of the most insightful moments was after a session with a cross dresser, who told me that he realized why he had felt so 'uneasy' during our time together, of course I wanted to know why he felt this way. I was pleased by his answer and it helped me to understand another level of perspective. he stated that he had guilt and shame issues with his fetish of choice and that most of the time when he sessioned he was able to 'disconnect' from himself and be more an 'observer', however with me he was not able to do that because I was so 'in the moment' that he had to BE there in the
moment with me. Wow. I had not thought of this possible scenario. My desire was to always create an environment where a 'real connection' took place, because the most common critism I heard from subs concerning past sessions was that they left the session feeling 'empty' or even disillusioned.
I swore no one would ever feel this way after meeting and playing with me. So here I was, on the opposite end of the spectrum, with a person who wanted to be able to disconnect so he could pretend he wasn't actually doing what he was doing. I felt pleased I had achieved such a personal level of experience, even with a person I had just met, though this situation posed a completely different scenario to be addressed.
Many people feel guilt and shame over their sexuality, and I enjoy and get great satisfaction from being a facilitator in regard to the addressing of these issues.
Freedom from self oppression is liberating. Freedom from allowing outside sources to oppress us is liberating. The 'voices' that we hear projected from within our culture can be devastating and destructive. Having a healthy perspective is paramount to having healthy self esteem and self value. Our sexuality is at our very core being.
Coming to terms with our desires starts with understanding why we are motivated as we are and this requires looking deeply into ourselves. A scary proposition for many.
Sure, it is easy to walk through life with blinders on, and to simply just do 'whatever'. I personally do not want to do this, because I want to live my life as an aware, responsible person. I want to change myself by acknowledging and addressing issues that I need to acknowledge and address. I am grateful that I am not afraid to look into the mirror and face reality because I want the absolute MOST out of life and this is thus far the only way I have found that it can be done; honestly and sincerely.
Many of us have discovered that our fetishes are rooted in childhood experiences. Such as events that took place in school such as being spanked during our teen years in front of a pretty teacher or girl we had a crush on.
Naturally some fetishes are the result of rebellion in one form or another.
We are also very tactile beings, enjoying a variety of textures and feelings and I believe this is the root of so many fetishes such as messy fetish (one of my faves) and latex (yummmm). Just looking at a body covered in sticky sweet food (for me shaved of course) or a body slick in latex makes me wet and my mind go wild. Having my own body in latex or some form of tight clothing feels awesome!!
Most bdsm participants that I have met are people who like to explore sexuality on a psychological level, and are not satisfied by traditional sexuality. These examples are just the tip of the iceberg.
On a more negative side, naturally there are motives that are less than fruitful in a positive manner. Motives that involve severe genital mutilation or pure ego gratification resulting from insecurity even hatred or resentments, self indulgence involving cruelty, the desire to be abused and humiliated resulting from lack of self esteem or self value or fear of being rejected.
I am very selective not to involve myself in scenarios where I am to be used in a person's self destructive behaviors. Though if I suspect a person to be engaging in such activities, I will oftentimes speak with them at length, if only to learn more about their feelings and to try to understand what makes them tick. I cannot save people, but I can offer suggestions and resources that may prove to be helpful. Just because a person asks for something does not mean I should accomodate the request. If I suspect they have unhealthy motivations I would be just as unhealthy to perform the self destructive scenario. I do not want to participate in unhealthy situations. I am however, VERY kinky. There IS a BIG difference.
Some may argue using the idea that 'what is one manīs good is another manīs bad'. I will say this: 'go ahead, argue that the grass is pink and the sun is purple, but I believe that there IS a universal good, a creative and a destructive force, and we must choose which side we want to be on. I choose the the creative, the good. Anyone can argue. It takes wisdom to see wisdom. I must take a stand regarding my beliefs. I also realize, that as I evolve I want to be able to be flexible and to change when needed or to admit when I have been wrong. I do realize that there are many issues that people are wrestling with, issues that involve many factors on a social level. Religion or rejection of religion, tradition, personal experiences, family, views on sexuality, the politics of social interaction, so many factors that are involved in the equation.
Bdsm in my opinion should be fun. Bdsm activities do not have to be about understanding oneself; however why not make the best of everything each day and in each experience? There is so much to be gained from exploring yourself on a deeper level, and addressing character faults and becoming a better person each day.
Being selfish and allowing fear to rule you creates a bubble around a person, while being selfless opens up a world of possibilities.
I love, absolutely LOVE creating an environment where the person I am playing with can safely and comfortably express their desires and feelings knowing they will not be judged or ridiculed for it. Together we use each otherīs energy to create a moment that is usually one of the most honest moments, where otherwise masks are worn to hide these desires and feelings.
Not everyone has the luxury of being 'out of the closet'. I am fortunate in this manner, but many of the subs/slaves I play with are not. Therefore it is very therapeutic to be able to express themselves in this way.
I invite you to comment or add your perspective on this subject. Thanks for reading.
~Domina Elle
DominaElle.Com - Bondage Forums:> Superior Beings Or Maybe Not?
The following was written for a blog on another site in response to a poll about whether or not looks mattered in a sub:
Do looks matter in a sub? I do not care about such things. Though I am not surprised about the results of some polls, however unscientific they are, since vanity plays such a big role in our society. Human beings are human beings, and par for the course there are women who engage in bdsm who are very superficial and I think this is an attraction for many subs. As I read through different blogs, profiles, web sites, I am amazed that these guys fall for this crap. But I also realize that is exactly how it ends up working in regard to some fetishes. I believe at times it is the result of low self esteem and a lack of values on both sides. Many people seek out ways to degrade themselves or feed their negativity and this usually involves finding other people who will cater to the behavior.
There is a plethora of women now seeking to use this platform (bdsm) to make money, get gifts, etc. It actually turns a lot of people OFF. It seems they feel this is an easy road. Just sit back and watch the money come in. IF ONLY.
It takes real talent, effort and investment to make anything successful. But do these people understand or even give a damn how they are affecting the whole?? I know we all have to make ends meet, but what about taking responsibility for how we affect the community? What about preservation? Or is it ok to do 'whatever you want'?
Rather than exclusively being a method of earning money, the experience can be used to facilitate some very positive energy exchange where the Dominant is in a position to take their 'sub'ject to a wonderful place energetically. A session can be very therapeutic for everyone involved. Many people who seek to be dominated are oftentimes dealing with a lot of stress on a daily basis (in today's world who is not?), they welcome the opportunity to get some 'down time'. In this case an experience that allows them to release control, relax, possibly enjoy a nice endorphine high, leave their 'normal' frame of mind.
Perhaps some people do not share my belief that we are all connected and therefore have a responsibility to understand and know how their actions affect everyone else. I believe this to be true on a microcosmic level as well as a macrocosmic level.
Partly due to the popularity of the Internet as well as an interest in bdsm, there are a lot of younger women liking the idea of the 'Dominatrix' the 'Mistress'. I believe there are several reasons for this, including the shifts in consciousness due to a dramatic change in our way of life from even fifty years ago. Technology has allowed man and womankind to leave behind some very hardwired behaviors that have dominated life for centuries. In some people this has been a very confusing 'shift'. The archetypes of 'feminine' and 'masculine' are experiencing an evolution. Specifically women are now able to express their personal power in a very different manner than previously accepted on a social level. 'Roles' are being challenged and more people are playing around with gender.
I do not blame these women for being attracted to the idea of being a Dominatrix, a Mistress. How could I? Though I would ask them to do the following: seek out mentors. There ARE people who love to share their talents, their skills. Not just on the business side, but SAFETY, and sane practices that will ensure their safety and the safety of those they engage. This is very important. In addition, there are multi levels of psychology that come into play in the various fetishes, and it is of substantial benefit to be able to engage people in a way that is positive for them.
There is fantasy, and there is reality. It is fun to play around with roles, with gender, and with control. However it is important to maintain a healthy balance in regard to these and how we play. When new subs call me, I speak to them about being realistic in regard to the D/s dynamic, and that they do not HAVE to accept being treated as sub-human, in fact it is my opinion that they should not as a 'norm'. There is always an aproach that keeps a person's dignity intact even during humiliation based scenes. I personally believe that each person involved deserves respect, and that some of the fantasies shared in the bdsm culture are just that: fantasies, and should be regarded as such, and not taken overly seriously. I often say: I take what I do and share seriously, but I try not to take MYSELF too seriously. Life has taught me that doing so limits my experience and ability to gain Wisdom from what I do and share. And since I DO want to BE a superior human being, I must live awake, responsibly, and continuously work to become a better and better person.
All walks of life and many levels of awareness can be found amongst us. Some incredible and wonderful people, as well as some not so nice people which is exactly why healthy boundaries should be established right away. People do whatever they do from whatever level of understanding they have evolved to. In regard to what is exchanged in the context of bdsm, you find people who are just 'talking a talk' and not 'walking the walk'. This is typically human and is the case wherever you go wherever humans are.
I have spoken with thousands of subs, written thousands of subs, and what I see continually is a disdain for certain attitudes and modes of operation. These subs want to feel good about what they experience and share. The typical response is "I am not a doormat". On the other side of the same coin, it is important that a sub be aware of, if and when they are being an energy vampire or playing the role of 'poor me'. It is not the obligation of the Dominant to think for a sub. Not in my opinion. Even in the most intense power exchange scenarios it still boils down to a consensual exchange when it is a healthy exchange.
I have said it before, there is a new 'breed' of subs entering the bdsm lifestyle, which I believe is the direct result of the popularity of the Internet and the shifts in consciousness due to a modern lifestyle. Hundreds of thousands of men are seeking to be dominated by women, therefore women are in a very good position right now to do something amazing! Instead of acting like gold digging bitches who are ready to vent their hate and resentment issues onto men, therefore alienating men, we could come from an entirely different perspective. This is an amazing time for all of us in the history of peoplekind.
The GODDESS archetype is that of the HEALER, the CREATOR, the ENLIGHTENED, THE MOTHER. She is also the DESTROYER, but it is out of this kind of destruction that life evolves!
Men have kept women in the background in the past. There was a time when men sat around a table to vote whether or not Women had souls! They also voted on whether or not animals had souls. The animals lost, women barely made it! Women have come a long way since then. In the past, women for the most part, relied on men for their power. This is no longer the case in most cultures.
It is my observation that we are at a place in our development, where all the ism's are being challenged if not abolished, such as sexism, ageism, racism, and so forth (and this is not to say that some boundaries are not needed and essential to our development). Do we as women want to make the same mistakes that our culture has made in the past? Or can we move beyond this limitation and accept such responsibilites? I believe this is the natural progression. We move through extremes and eventually find the middle, balanced path.
Women can rise up and take our positions in the world, as leaders, teachers, guides, healers, lovers, but awakened EXAMPLES.
It may be difficult for some of you to fathom being able possess and live such a variety of attributes AND be a kinky Dominant but it is possible I assure you.
There is no reason a Female Dominant cannot possess compassion, reverence, respect, insightfulness, empathy, wisdom, and more. In fact, in doing so you will be able to take your subs to the deepest level of subspace and earn (did I say 'earn' YES I did) profound loyalty and love from your subs. Of course, if all you want exclusively is their money, you have already cut yourself off from so many possibilities they cannot be listed here.
People get lost in their egos (fear), lost in their vanities and in their ILLUSIONS (all based in fear). I decided a long time ago that I wanted much more than illusions in my life. The illusionary path is a path that leads to destruction in one form or another. I have certainly made my mistakes and I am not immune from making mistakes now. I am human. I do want to be a superior human being. I know the only way to achieve this is through thoughts actions and deeds that serve all of peoplekind as well as the good of the entire planet.
Therefore, I ask of my sisters, that you re-think your positions about certain things if not everything, and those of you who feel inspired by the idea that we as women are in a position to affect great change on a social, sexual, intellectual level, that you rise to the occasion and do that very thing! Being the superior human beings that you ARE.
If we are worthy of worship, let it be seen through our thoughts actions and deeds. Choose to BE and LIVE as superior beings.
Do you really want to rule the world?? You have to have what it takes to get the job done and done RIGHT. Besides, Domme-itis is not very pretty.
~Domina Elle
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